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This first item is taken from a book called ‘A new world order. The much wider design’ by Paul Obee and Lee Woodstock and quite frankly I feel is awesome. It talks of a subject I’ve known about for years and either haven’t thought enough about or thought I knew all about, but I see now I didn’t have a clue!

Maybe it’s the right time for me to understand now, maybe I just couldn’t know before?

I hope it is as moving and helpful to you as it was to me when I first read it. In fact I can read it over and over and it still teaches me.

The Bonds Of Love by Paul Obee & Lee Woodstock

Freedom, or rather the lack of freedom comes in all shapes and sizes. We enslave other people through the small ‘l’ laws and we allow our selves to be enslaved at the same time. Yet, we also enslave our selves in our own emotional prisons and extinguish further still our freedoms as the spiritual energy we really are. Love can be misunderstood, a double edged sword and one of the chains around our ankles.

What is Love? How do we define it?

I remember reading a simple statement that said- ‘If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, then it’s yours.’ At the time, I never really appreciated the true meaning behind those words. It is only now that I finally understand.

I looked up the word Love in the dictionary to try and find a greater definition of it – Love v to have a great affection for; feel sexual passion for. And on the outside, that just about sums it up. A great many people follow this dictionary definition; they may display great sexual passion for their partners and almost certainly have a great affection for their children and so that to them is love. Indeed for most of my life, I had assumed to follow this curve, this description of how love should be. I believed it. But I have since realized that my love came with quite a hefty price and that price was in the form of terms and conditions. Of course, these were not formal agreements to be signed upon commencement; they were more like verbal or emotional, on some levels even psychological conditions of having my love. I had certain rules, that if broken, the perpetrator was punished with guilt for their actions – if I didn’t approve, it was forbidden. But it became apparent that the same could be said for those that loved me; I had to follow these same silent small ‘l’ laws in order to keep everyone else happy. I found that we all punished each other, through fear and guilt, when we each violated each other’s conditions. When I said ‘I love you’, subconsciously in my mind, it was followed by ‘as long as you don’t do something I wouldn’t agree with?.’

In this sense, I had become a dictator of someone else’s life. I controlled them. In the same light, my life was also being dictated to by the very ones who loved me, so ultimately, I was both slave and master to a conditioned sense of love.

In a great many cases, you will find that people are enslaved by conditions of other people’s ideas of love. We push our beliefs of how life should be and the rights and wrongs of love onto the ones we have the most affection for. Their ideas and principals may differ entirely and so we find we are also suppressing our own uniqueness by being what other people want us to be.

Every human being on the planet is a unique and wonderful creature, each bursting to express themselves in whatever way they dream of. We are all free spirits, yet we condition ourselves to be slaves through the fear and guilt of the ones we love. How many of us have thought – ‘I better not go, her indoors wouldn’t approve.’ Or,

‘I can’t be who I want to be because my partner doesn’t like it’? Guilt for expressing individualism is emotional imprisonment surely? We must learn to love all aspects of the ones closest to us, indeed, everyone including and most importantly, their own sense of individualism. We must respect their experiences as part of their own evolution.

Most of us adore our children, yet still we push our beliefs into their minds so that they may follow in their fathers footsteps, or make mum proud. I have been there, as I am sure you have. Of course I understand this is only parental love, the duty to feel you must do what is right for your children. This does not make you a bad parent in doing what you think is best, it’s just the passing on of your programming, your imposed thought and behavior. This cycle of programming can be broken very easily by letting children choose their own path and not making them feel guilty into conforming to the way you think they should be.

Obviously the children still require some level of guidance throughout the earlier years, yet the guidance should come without condemnation, but with understanding and compassion.

During the course of compiling this book, I have come to realize, and about me too, that if I was to truly love someone, I must love them unconditionally so that they can experience whatever it is they need to experience to fulfill their chapter in this eternal spiritual experience.

Who am I to dictate the path someone else should walk? And who are they to dictate mine? To love someone, I must also love that someone’s uniqueness and individualism as a human being and allow them the freedom to be who they are and not what I want them to be? By breaking this conditioned, this dictionary description sense of love, we will find that we are able to love others in the same way and evolve into a new level of love and understanding.

When the human race comes to realize that love of their partners or offspring, does not actually mean ownership of them, when the chains of conditioned love break to reveal a world filled with unconditional love, only then will we be truly free. Love is after all, what the world needs most.

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ADDED NOTE: Well, I have just finished writing the above sub-chapter and have just been handed a CD album from my wife. She told me to read the lines to a specific song and it really emphasis’s what I have just been talking about. So thank you universe for helping me with our book.

The song is Alanis Moresstte’s ‘You owe me nothing in return’?

I’ll give you countless amounts of outright acceptance if you want it

I will give you encouragement to choose the path that you want if you need it

You can speak of anger and doubts, your fears and freak-outs and I’ll hold it

You can share your so-called shame filled accounts of times in your life and I won’t judge it

And there are no strings attached to it

You owe me nothing for giving the love that I give

You owe me nothing for caring the way that I have

I give you thanks for receiving it’s my privilege

And you owe me nothing in return

You can ask for space for yourself and only yourself and I’ll grant it

You can have freedom as well or time to travel and you’ll have it

You can ask to live by yourself or love someone else and I’ll support it

You can ask for anything you want, anything at all and I’ll understand it

And there are no strings attached to it

I bet you’re wondering when the next pay back shoe will drop

I bet your wondering when my conditional police will force you to cough up

I bet you are wondering how far you have danced your way back into debt

This is the only kind of love as I understand it that there really is

You can express your deepest of truths even if it means I’ll loose you and I’ll hear it

You can fall into the abyss on your way to bliss I’ll empathize with it

You can say that you have to skip town to chase your passion and I’ll hear it

You can even hit rock bottom have a mid-life crisis and I’ll hold it

And there are no strings attached

By Alanis Morissette, from the album ‘Under rug swept’.

I offer this track as a download here (Password for the file is ‘love’), I like to think Alanis would be ok with this as I am trying to spread love and the idea of unconditional love.

The Pagan Ethic: “If it harms none, do what thou wilt” This is a positive morality expressing the belief in individual responsibility for discovering one’s own true nature and developing it fully, in harmony with the outer world and community.

Smiling!

Smiling is infectious

You can catch it like the ‘flu’

When someone smiled at me today

I started smiling too

I walked around the corner

And someone saw me grin:

When he smiled I realized

I had passed it on to him

I thought about the smile

And then realized it’s worth-

A single smile like mine

Could travel round the earth.

So if you feel a smile begin

Don’t leave it undetected:

Start an epidemic quick

And get the world infected!

From Evesham MIND.

Dance like no one’s watching

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nice car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.

The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes from Alfred D’Souza. He said, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life”

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you share it with someone special, special enough to spend your time?and remember that time waits for no one?

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until Spring, until Summer, until Fall, until Winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy?

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

Thought for the day: Work like you don’t need money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and dance like no one’s watching.

The closer to nature we live

the more meaningful and rewarding life becomes”.

Australian mountain man.

Desiderata

GO PLACIDLY AMID THE NOISE AND HASTE, AND REMEMBER WHAT PEACE THERE MAY BE IN SILENCE.

As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations of the spirit. If you compare yourself to others you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be a greater and lesser person than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.

But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the council of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here, and whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all it’s sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

Found in old St Paul’s church, Baltimore; Dated 1692.

Something to think about!

If we could shrink the earth’s population to a village of precisely 100

people, with all the existing human ratios remaining the same, it would look

something like the following:

There would be:

57 Asians

21 Europeans

14 from the Western Hemisphere, both north and south > 8 Africans

52 would be female

48 would be male

70 would be nonwhite

30 would be white

70 would be non-Christian

30 would be Christian

89 would be heterosexual

11 would be homosexual

6 people would possess 59% of the entire world’s wealth and all would be

from the United States.

80 would live in substandard housing

70 would be unable to read

50 would suffer from malnutrition

1 would be near death; 1 would be near birth

1 (yes, only 1) would have a college education

1 would own a computer

When one considers our world from such a compressed perspective, the need

for acceptance, understanding and education becomes glaringly apparent.

The following is also something to ponder…

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness…you are more

blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of

imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation

you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest,

torture, or death…you are more blessed than three billion people in the

world.

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof

overhead and a place to sleep…you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish

someplace … you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy.

If your parents are still alive and still married … you are very rare,

even in the United States and Canada.

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that

someone was thinking of you, and furthermore, you are more blessed than over

two billion people in the world that cannot read at all.

Someone once said: What goes around comes around.

Work like you don’t need the money.

Love like you’ve never been hurt.

Dance like nobody’s watching.

Sing like nobody’s listening.

Jeff and Carole Lang

A Professor stood before his Philosophy 101 class and had some items in

front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large

and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He

then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a jar of pebbles and poured them into the

jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the

open spaces between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if

the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar and of

course the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar

was full. The students responded with an unanimous yes.

The professor then produced two cans of beer from under the table and

proceeded to pour the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling

the empty space between the grains of sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to

recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the

important things — your family, your partner, your health, your

children, your friends, your favorite passions — things that if everything else

was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

“The pebbles are the other things that matter, like your job, your

house, your car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no

room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for your life. If you

spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have

room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the

things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time

to get a medical checkup. Take your partner out dancing. Play another 18.

There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner

party and fix the disposal Take care of the golf balls first — the

things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer

represented

The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that

no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple

of beers.”